Have you ever noticed yourself rewriting the same word three times? You want to start working, but you can’t get over how wrong a word looks. You erase it at least five times before it’s “just right.” Are you a perfectionist? If you are, to what extent, and what can you do to overcome it?
Types of Perfectionism
Perfectionism is often thought as a general term, yet there are varying degrees of this behaviour.
This is the most common form of perfectionism and is where one sets standards for themselves which are considered unattainable. However, when things go wrong, you may often beat yourself up about it. It is important to recognize if you are simply setting high standards for yourself as a motivation or if you are setting unrealistic goals. Try to alter your goals to something you can accomplish!
On the other hand, this type of perfectionist is the opposite of being self-oriented. Instead of having high standards for yourself, you have high standards for others. It can lead to strained relationships between you and your friends. Try to distinguish yourself as being a leader instead of pushing others. On the other hand, an other-oriented perfectionist sets unrealistic standards
Socially Prescribed Perfectionsim
This type of perfectionist is known to be critical of themselves to avoid the criticism and rejection of others. Not only do they shame themselves for the mistakes they make, but they also believe that their self-worth is determined by the number of mistakes they make, entirely false!
There are many ways you can overcome perfectionism. One of the most important things to understand is that growing takes time. It is important to not judge yourself too quickly! In addition, don’t compare yourself to others. Instead, focus on yourself and the progress you are making.
Do you associate yourself with any of the characteristics of being a perfectionist? If you do, remember to set attainable goals to ensure you are working to your maximum potential!